The Five Real Questions to Ask Your Wedding DJ
If you’ve searched online for “questions to ask your wedding DJ,” you’ve probably seen the same handful of tips popping up everywhere—on Pinterest boards, Instagram posts, and countless wedding blogs. They often focus on gear or venue experience, which can be useful but doesn’t necessarily help you find a DJ who clicks with your style or vision. Let’s be real: You deserve better than the same tired Q&A script. Below, I’ve compiled five truly meaningful questions to help you get to know a DJ’s personality, approach, and expertise. After all, your wedding day is a once-in-a-lifetime celebration—you want the right pro behind the booth!
1. Tell Me About Your Favorite Wedding and Why It Was So Special
I have a few favorites, but there’s one that really stands out. It took place at the Coloma Resort by the river, and everything just fell into place. The couple was genuinely excited to tie the knot; they wanted their guests to feel valued and comfortable from start to finish. During cocktail hour, a live guitarist played as I set up perfect audio (shout-out to me!), followed by some smooth jazz. Later, I was introduced to a great band called Khruangbin—now among my personal favorites. Once dancing started, it was pure magic: a high-energy blend of classic wedding jams, a bit of hip-hop, maybe one country track, and a dash of EDM. We wrapped up the night at 9:59 p.m., and the crowd was still going strong. They showered me with thanks, and I left with a natural high that sticks with me to this day.
Why ask?
Hearing about a DJ’s favorite wedding reveals how they define an amazing party. You’ll learn about their musical range, ability to read a crowd, and the kind of vibe they love creating. Their answer also gives insight into whether their style resonates with your wedding vision.
2. Tell Me About Your Least Favorite Wedding
Not every celebration goes off without a hitch. Technical glitches, restrictive playlists, or mismatched expectations can turn an event into a lesson learned. My own “least favorite” experience involved a couple who insisted I play every song to its very last note—no fades or transitions—and use only original versions (no remixes!). They also demanded zero cross-genre mixing (which is nearly impossible for me, as it’s one of my signature strengths).
To my surprise, the event itself felt great. The ceremony was lovely, cocktails were relaxed, dinner went smoothly, and once dancing began, it truly felt like everyone was having a blast. One half of the couple was even requesting tracks outside their own “no mixing” rule, but I rolled with it. Then, months later, I got hit with a three-star review from the more insistent partner, basically stating they wanted a totally different DJ vibe. Ouch. The takeaway? Sometimes a DJ’s style simply doesn’t mesh with a couple’s expectations—and that’s okay. I learned how crucial it is to clarify my approach from the start, so the couple and I are on the same page.
Why ask?
Discussing a DJ’s least favorite wedding shows how they handle pressure and bounce back when things don’t go perfectly. You’ll also see whether they’ve grown from past hiccups and how transparent they are about their experiences. That kind of honesty can be a huge plus.
3. What Three Songs Have You Played Most at Weddings and Why?
This is my all-time favorite question to receive because it says a lot about my style. My top three?
“Signed, Sealed, Delivered” by Stevie Wonder
It was actually the recessional song at my own wedding, so it’s special to me. Every time I play it, I relive that moment—plus, it’s a total crowd-pleaser.“Sexy Back” by Justin Timberlake
It’s an instant energy boost.The Temptations’ “My Girl” (Baltimore Club Remix)
It’s got the iconic melody everyone knows with an updated beat that appeals to both older generations and EDM lovers. Major win on any dance floor!
Why ask?
It reveals the DJ’s musical taste, from timeless Motown to modern jams.
You’ll see how well they adapt to different crowds (versatility is huge).
It demonstrates their experience: if the songs they mention routinely fill the floor, you’ve probably found a DJ who knows how to spark a party.
4. What Part of Your DJ Skills Are You Most Focused on Improving?
Nobody is perfect—especially not in an art form as ever-evolving as DJing. For me, I’ve been working on refining my MC abilities. I’m good, but I believe there’s room to up my game when it comes to communicating with large crowds.
Why ask?
A DJ who actively works on self-improvement is serious about providing the best possible service. They’ll likely stay current with music trends, refine mixing techniques, or enhance their stage presence. Their willingness to share this shows they’re professional, transparent, and committed to impressing you and your guests on the big day.
5. What Makes You Different from Other DJs in Your Market?
Here’s how I’d personally answer that question:
Full-Time Dedication: I don’t DJ on the side. This is my career, my passion, and my livelihood.
mixing Pro: My background includes nightclubs and festivals opening sets for big-name acts, and even some offbeat gigs like a Hawaiian Tropic beauty contest. These experiences shaped my ability to read rooms and adapt seamlessly.
Creative Artist: I see wedding DJing as an art form rather than a formula. Every couple has unique tastes, so I treat each celebration as a one-of-a-kind experience, not just another weekend gig.
Why ask?
You’ll find out what genuinely sets the DJ apart—maybe it’s their mixing style, their emcee skills, or their musical library. This helps you compare different pros and decide which traits matter most to you. Understanding a DJ’s uniqueness can also spark confidence that they’ll bring something extra special to your wedding.
Final Thoughts
Still here? You might be the perfect couple for me to work with! Finding the right DJ is about way more than gear or playlists; it’s about vibe, personality, and trust. If you appreciated these questions and my answers, I’d love to continue the conversation. Click here to send me an email if you think we’d be a great match—I can’t wait to hear about your vision and how we can make your wedding unforgettable!
Thanks for reading, and here’s to a celebration that reflects your personality, sparks countless smiles, and leaves you and your guests raving for years to come.
